I understand predicaments. I lived through them. I was in a sort of similar situation (family “backstabbing”). After I left the limbo, something broke and the words and the odds have become simple and clear. As in a song sheltered by the desert.
Indeed, you are right. After, we have nothing but possibilities, to build and to fly.
You have created wonderful dominions with the power of your mind and imagination. And we have the same engine that sets us going, doing better and leaving abysses behind.
SALVADOR DALÍ (1904-1989) -Woman at the window in Figueres,1926